Most of our decisions are designed, to some extent, to make us feel better.
If I work in that field, I’ll be fulfilled.
If I learn to play volleyball, I’ll enjoy it.
If I live an honourable life, I’ll feel contented.
If I eat that pizza for lunch, I’ll love it.
But we often guess wrong and wind up making ourselves feel miserable instead. It can feel as though happiness is a barricaded door against which we keep banging our heads.
What if we stopped? What if we turned around and looked in the other direction instead? If, for some reason, our goal was to become less happy, what would we do? This may sound like a nonsensical quest, but it’s been sitting there, unexamined, all your life. Why not take at least a quick look at it?
By doing so, we may discover something unsettling. We are already doing many of the things that we know make us less happy. Perhaps part of the problem is not that the realm of happiness is barred and locked against us. Perhaps we are spending much of our time voluntarily walking through the doorway to misery.
Maybe to feel happier we don’t really need to do anything. Maybe we just need to stop what we’re already doing.
- Autor: Randy J. Paterson
- Kategoria: nauki społeczne (psychologia, socjologia, itd.)
- Język: angielski
- ISBN: 9781626254060
- Data wydania: 2016-05-01
- Liczba stron: 248
- Ocena: 7,3
- Wydawnictwo: New Harbinger Publications
